If you have come to this article chances are you bullied someone in you school or early life. It must have been a thrill to bully or harass someone for their shortcomings, for how they look, for the clothes they wear, for their sexual orientation or the colour of their skin. Perhaps you might have done it just to look cool in your group. After all who doesn’t want to be the cool guy or girl.
It may have given you pleasure it may have made you feel strong, powerful, invincible. But did you stop and think what could your bullying be doing to the guy or girl whose getting bullied? Didyou think about the psychological effects it has on them?
If you had paid attention you would have understood that your bullying could have devastating effect on someone. This becomes bigger concern when parents and teacher don’t help them when they try to confide in.
Following are he effects that bullying has on them:
- They end up feeling not good enough and begin to deal with low self esteem.
- They begin to get anxiety issues and depression.
- They begin to isolate themselves.
- Their mind goes into a constant recall mode and affect their sleep pattern.
- They involve in unhealthy eating habits or even substance abuse
- A few of them being to harm themselves
- A few of them don’t even make it to the adulthood as they end up committing suicide.
It doesn’t end there for those who make it to the adulthood
- They continue to be extremely hard n them selves.
- They face problems committing to a relationship.
- They cannot express their feelings which in turn becomes pent up anger and resentment
- They face difficulty growing at work as they don’t feel they deserve it making them feel like an absolute failure.
So you see, the short term pleasure you had has doomed them for ever. Please understand not everyone is gifted. Very few of them are able to fight back and become confident and successful.
Remember everyone has a story which you may not know of. You may not know if the guy or girls family may be going through a rough patch. Their color, race, ethnicity and sexual orientation is not in their hands.
So before you bully someone pause and try to know his or her story. You’ll regret to even have thought about bullying him or her. Also if you bullied someone, please try and contact them and apologise. It will have a huge positive impact on them.
An advice for parents and teachers: Please talk to your children regularly and check if they are being bullied. Ensure you support them and help them fix the situation.
Let’s stop bullying together.