Posted in Happiness, Letting Go, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

How Minimalistic Living = Prosperity Abundance, and Happiness?

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“Minimalism is not about having less, it’s about making room for what matters. – Unknown

With the advance of internet, smartphones, social media and advertising, the world has become a very complicated place to live in. With so much chaos and stuff happening around, there is a steap rise in the level of dissatisfaction we face in our lives and finding happiness is difficult. We do a lot of thing in order to fill the void and one thing we do is we believe the popular advertisements and videos that say ‘if we use this smartphone we would be successful’, ‘if we use this fairness cream, we will get our dream job’, and the list goes on. They make us believe that everything that they are marketing is really important for us and we often fall into their trap.But let’s be honest, That does not happen.

Cellphones, social media and emails are supposed to help us stay connected with our loved ones but in reality, it distracts us and keep us away from the real relationships, the more meaningful work and brings in more unrest.

Same is the thing, with emotions, When someone does bad to us we forgive them but we don’t forget. This is only causing our emotions to take a toll on our lives by holding onto the burden.

Minimalism is a tool that can help you find freedom from all this. That does not mean you have to throw everything away and live in a barn with no facilities around. Minimalism is stepping away from the materialism, focusing on what is important and only having the necessary stuff around.

You may say Are you sure? It does not mean you have to throw away everything that you own? Yes Absolutely not. There is nothing wrong with owning things that provide some meaning to your life, but if that thing is making your life miserable, it needs to go.

Let’s take an example of shifting the house. Suppose you are shifting your house and you have packed everything in two boxes In Box one there is so much stuff that you haven’t used in a long time or didn’t have any idea you owned it. stuuff thst is not giving any benefits what so ever but adding up to the burden and cost of shifting. The Second box, on the other hand, is filled with stuff that you use regularly and stuff that provides meaning to your life. Which one would you be happy to shifting and spending on? I believe its the second one.

So how do we simplify our lives? How do we incorporate Minimalism into our lives?

  1. Declutter your House: There is so much stuff lying around our house, that is just taking up space and we don’t use it. There may be certain things we think we would use on special occasions but those special occasions just don’t come. It’s time to get rid of them.
  2. Declutter your closet: Having a lot of clothes can confuse us on what to wear and oftentimes a lot of clothes are just lying there and we don’t use them. Look for stuff that you have not used in the past one year except seasonal stuff. Get Rid of them
  3. Declutter your Time: Plan your day well and stick to it. Avoid taking in ad-hoc activities. Cut down your time watching TV and doing unnecessary stuff.  Limit checking your phone and email frequently and stick to a specific time. Avoid going to events and gatherings that do not make you feel truly happy.
  4. Declutter your Finances: Identify the reason for your impulse buying and work on it. Avoid the temptation to buy things that aren’t truly necessary in your life. Get rid of your credit cards.
  5. Declutter your Phone and Laptop: Delete all unnecessary apps, videos, photos, and documents that are taking up space and battery. Organise everything in folders to make them easy to find. Turn off the notification bell and stick to specific time for checking your phone. The same steps can be applied for your laptop.
  6. Declutter your Emotions and Health: Understand your emotions and identify the root of your behavior and work on it. Forgive, forget and let go of the bad experiences from the past and focus on living in now and present. Make it a habit to workout regularly and give your body proper rest at the same time. Practice Gratitude.

Additional Guidelines:

  • Apply the 80/20 Rule from the Pareto theory to help you make better decisions. Like in your closet there are 20 % clothes that you wear 80 % of the time. So the 20 % clothes are the ones you should keep
  • There may be some stuff in your house and closet that may fall under the maybe or not sure category. Keep those items for some more time say 6 months to 1 more year. If you do not use them even in that period, they are better of out of your house.
  • You need not throw away the stuff that you want to get rid of. You can either organize a yard sale or use online websites that sell second-hand goods and electronics and make some money. You can also donate it in charity to the needy people. The feel-good factor you will get from it itself will make your day.
  • Avoid performing the declutter all at once and do it in small batches spanned across a few weeks or months to ensure you do not get overwhelmed and upset of losing all that stuff.
  • Avoid falling into the trap of materialism and concentrate on Essentialism to prevent impulse buying in future
  • Have a purpose in life.

What are the benefits of practicing Minimalism?

  • You get rid of all the excess stuff
  • You get rid of the discomfort and upset
  • You save a lot of time, energy, resources and money
  • You live in the present
  • You are emotionally stable and peaceful
  • You focus on your health and wellbeing
  • You grow as an individual and find purpose in your life
  • You have better relationships with your self and those around you

With all these benefits Minimalism creates a sense of abundance, prosperity, and positivity in your life truly serving to the saying “Minimalism is not about having less, it’s about making room for what matters. – Unknown

 

Posted in Belief, Change and Challenges, Dreams and Destiny, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

Why Excuses can be your biggest roadblock to Success & How to overcome the habit of making Excuses?

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We all aim higher for our selves in life. We have big dreams, a lot of ambitions and expectations. But how many of us end up fulfilling them? Barely a few of us. Why? One major reason could be our Excuses.  Whenever things do not go our way or as we expected. When we fail to do something when we want to neglect to take certain responsibility, we end up making Excuses.

Excuses are great. They make us feel better about ourselves. They make it easier for us to digest our failed attempts and expectations by rationalizing the circumstances in our mind and in front of others. But in reality, all these excuses do is limit our abilities and we get stuck living in mediocrity. These excuses keep us stuck from taking actions that are necessary for succeeding.

Regularly practicing excuses can have a grave effect on our mental health by limiting the beliefs of our ability. We build imaginary walls in front of us and we do not look what’s on the other side. We avoid change and taking responsibilities. These keeps us locked in within our comfort zone. Our outlook towards life turns negative and in the and in the end all we are left with are regrets.

How do we get rid of this habit of frequently making excuses?

To eliminate excuses from our lives we must understand what these Excuses in reality are? Did we ever try to think them through? They are actually various fears we have like Fear of Failure, Fear of  Embarrassment, Fear of taking responsibility, Fear of change, Fear of making mistakes, Lack of resources and Lack of confidence. These fears generally come due to lack of understanding, experience, support, and resources.

We make excuses because we have that option. But what if there isn’t any option other than dealing with our fears and taking necessary action?  We need to be mindful about the excuses we make, understand the underlying fear and the feeling behind it. We need to deal with them in order to curb the habit. Initially, it may suck up your mental peace and calm. But it is necessary. When we make it a habit to deal with our fears and avoid making excuses, we become more confident and our abilities expand. We learn to accept change for good and take responsibilities. We begin to believe in endless possibilities and feel higher of our abilities. We thoughtfully make better judgments and have lesser regrets as a result.

I am listing down below few common excuses, the underlying fear, and the actions we should take:

Sr # Common Excuses Underlying Fear

Necessary Actions

1 I have tried it before, it doesn’t work Lack of confidence in ability

Giving up instantly

Seek for help or try to research for an alternative solution to the situation
2 I don’t have enough knowledge, experience or resources Lack of knowledge and experience where to start and what resources are needed

Fear of not being ready

Set your goals first and Resources would populate on their own when you build the action plan
3 Economy is bad/ The Job Market is bad Negative perception of external factors Do not believe everything that you hear on social media

Explore for options and alternatives

4 I’m don’t have time. Inability to manage time Identify important priority tasks and do them first.

Eliminate the aspects and activities that are unnecessary.

5 I can’t-do this Fear of failure Identify what you lack which could lead to failure and work on it

Take action

6 I’ll get to it later Fear of taking  responsibility Accept Responsibilities as they come without delaying them
7 It’s  too hard for me Lack of confidence and fear of getting out of comfort zone. Do difficult tasks first and do them regularly.

Trust your ability

8 I don’t know the right people Lack contacts and connection Find ways to network with people who can be resourceful to you. Attend networking events

These just a few excuses to name. There are a lot more excuses. All we need to do is understand the fear or feeling behind it and take necessary actions and remembering that making excuses is not an option.

Don’t look for excuses to lose. Look for excuses to win – Chi Chi Rodriguez 

 

Posted in Change and Challenges, Happiness, Letting Go, Mindfullness, Uncategorized

How to deal with Downfalls in your Life?

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We all have high points in our life where everything just seems to happen at the perfect time in the perfect way. It is these times in life that you feel extremely happy and our lives just seem like a blessing. The most exciting, enjoyable and interesting part of your life like living in La La Land.

But as they say, Life has both good followed by bad and vice versa phases. So while during the high point every thing seems so perfect there are times in life where things don’t work out the way you expected. Things go haywire and your lives seem to be falling apart out of any reason like losing a loved one, problematic work life, financial issues, etc. Sometimes it’s extreme disrupts us so much physically, emotionally and mentally, that our confidence is shattered and we lose sight of what’s next?

We get into our cocoons and don’t  look at the world of possibilities out there waiting for us. But this is the time where we need to be vigilant and help our selves deal with these downfalls. I hope the falling few guidelines help you in your path:

  1. Understand is a Phase:  Our lives are coherent connections of both the good and difficult time. It is crucial to understand that this is just a phase of life and not the end of it. At this time instead of getting shattered by emotions, we should learn from it and take charge to make it better.
  2. Let go and move on: What ever may be the cause of your downfall, it is important that you let it go and you concentrate on the next big thing in your life. Living with what happened in your past is only going to give you emotional turmoils and upset. But when we let it go, we have ample amount of space and time to think with a clear mind set.
  3. Don’t Isolate yourself: When going through the downfall, we are shattered emotionally. The world seems to be against us and we isolate ourselves and stop being in contact with the outside world. This would have more adverse effect on our mental health than making it better. So we need to get out regularly and look for possibilities. Stay connected with near and dear ones.
  4. Get help if needed: At times it is difficult for a few people to deal with the emotional chaos that is running in our mind. How much ever we try,  we tend to fail and begin to fall further in the mess. At such times it is good to seek some help. It can be anyone a close family member, a trusted friend,  or even professional help. It is crucial to ask for help rather than waiting.
  5. Exercise and get Good Sleep: Research shows that Exercise and Good Sleep can help one greatly in dealing with the emotional turmoils during downfalls. Exercise helps in reducing the stress and anxiety and help release the negative energy that gets stored. Sleep helps us rejuvenate and recover making you feel positive and recharged.
  6. Focus on things that matter: During downfalls, we tend to put a lot of our energy to focus on why that happened to us, we constantly play the tape of what happened during that unfortunate moment of downfalls. What rather we should do is focus on what matters to us, focus on more positive stuff, focus on what you can learn from it.
  7. Ignore opinions from Others: Sometimes during these phases, advice or opinions from others can make you feel absolutely worthless and incapable. It is better to avoid such opinions rather than falling prey to it.
  8. Identify What Next? and take necessary Actions:  If you want to come out of a downfall, the sooner you take this step, the better it would be. Staying with downfall for a long time can make it difficult for you to come out of it. So focus on what can you do next and begin to take necessary supporting actions.

While doing all this just ensure you stay positive and hopeful for better things coming and remember this phase shall pass.