Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Letting Go, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

Why is it necessary for you to let yourself loose sometimes?

So I was at a club yesterday with a very dear friend who I call Angry Bird . We met to talk over something’s we had been discussing for longtime. My friend has an awesome outgoing personality who genuinely believes living in the moment and enjoying it to the fullest. When he gets on the dance floor his energy is at it’s peak.

I, on the other hand, am a very shy and conscious person. I am very conscious about my self and how others see me. When I go to a club you’ll most of the time see me standing at the side of dance floor watching people dance. Though inside I feel bad standing at the side, I still won’t do anything about it.

This was not the case always. A few years prior I was the same happy go luck personality as my friend. I cared a damn about what others think. I believed in living in present and to the fullest. I wasn’t living a my life to impress others. That was until my anxiety kicked in and since then I have become a lot conscious about myself in public.

So me and my friend were at the club talking about random stuff and old times of how good they where. We were talking about how carefree our lives were and how much we enjoyed that time. It was so nice that I wrote a status on FB “Re-living my Past.” And truly I was because there was one more thing that was about to happen.

The DJ began to play dance music and everyone at the side tables got up and started dancing. My friend also routed to the floor since he loved dancing. I got up as well and was standing near to him watching everyone dance. He constantly asked me to join but there I was standing at the side as always.

It took me sometime, after which, I joined my friend consciously just making light movements. After sometime I don’t know what kicked in but then I was like, F**k it. Let’s dance . I told my self no body cares and even if they do it’s none of your business. I and my friend then danced like crazy. We danced for almost an hour with a lot of goofing around and it was awesome. It was truly liberating for me and I was really happy about it.

My friend was surprised since he always thought I did not know how to dance because he had never seen me dancing before. He told me how happy he was to see me dance like there is no tomorrow. The icing on the cake was when a group of stranger bros came and complemented us saying “You guys danced really well, What an energy?

After so long I let my self loose and it felt so awesome . I am really glad I met my friend yesterday because he seriously made me re-live my old self. I felt relieved and free and literally slept with a smile on my face all night long.

The message I want to put forward with this story time is that it’s ok for you to let loose at times. The kind of stressful lives we live in, it is extremely important that we let it out. So please occasionally liberate your self and do even the most cringey things without being bother about others. I’m sure you will love it after all that’s what life is all about. So live it to the fullest.

Cheers 🤟

Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Mindfullness

How Abhayanga (Self-Massage) helped me  with Anxiety and Depression? Why is it a part of my daily/weekly routine?

Our modern day life style is difficult. Stressful work, extensive traveling in traffic to and fro, bad eating habits, lack of physical activity and sleep, Spending long hours on social media, etc. All of this takes a toll on us and reflects in the form of stiffness, brain fog, anxiety and depression and diseases.

I often had those gloomy days where I did not want to do anything but just lie down. There were days when I was extremely stiff with aches in various parts of my body. I felt lazy, sick and sleepless. I was extremely anxious at times and at times depressed. In my quest for trying various things that can relax my body, mind and spirit I got to know about Self Massage (Abhayanga)

I must say this was one of the best things I came across. It is one of the best way to calm down the anxiety introduced by our modern day life style. It’s a way of expressing love for yourself – Your body, mind and Spirit.
Here’s how it’s done:

  • Select the oil of your choice and heat it luke warm.
  • Start with the head massage with your finger in circular motion slowly moving backwards. With the tip of your finger lightly press the points behind your skull above the neck.
  • Now using the the same oil start massaging your body starting at your feet slowly moving upwards using large strokes.
  • Make sure to go in circular motion near the joints
  • Once the whole body is covered you can let the oil stay for sometime and then wash it off.
  • If you don’t have time or don’t want to use oil that’s also fine. Just make sure you use gentle strokes to avoid hurting your skin.
  • It would be great if you can spend about 30 mins but even 5-10 mins go a long way.
  • If you cannot incorporate it daily make sure you at least do it 1-2 times a week.

Below are some fabulous benefits I experienced myself:

  • Instantly lifted my mood.
  • Raised my body temperature by increasing the blood flow.
  • Relaxed my mind and body there by helping me relieve from anxiety, low feelings and helped me ground myself.
  • Reduced stiffness in every part of my body there by making my muscles limber. Thus helped reduce pain and prevent injury.
  • Helped me sleep better and faster.
  • Improved my skin complexion and texture.
  • Helped stimulating my organs and lymphatic system for them to perform better.
  • Helped remove toxins from the skin

There are a lot more benefits. The biggest benefit I got was getting relief from my anxiety and depression. It instantly made me feel good

I want you to try it and experience all the benefits your self. All you need to do it include this in your daily if not weekly routine

Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

This one trick can help you Calm Down and Relax in 5 mins for absolutely free.

Let’s admit anxiety and panic attacks or for the sake of discussion worry and anger does not notify you beforehand that they are about to happen. A lot of times they are so strong that whatever we do it doesn’t settle. It’s like a tape that has been set to play on repeat in our brain. Your chest feels heavy. You are short of breath and a lot more.

I have faced this problem for a long time. And trust me it was a struggle to control it. There used to be times when I was on my way to office and while riding by bike multiple thoughts of everything wrong with my workplace would repeat on and on and by the time I reach office I would either be pissed off or anxious to the core.

This was the case until I found this one trick. I call it the “Thank you visualization scan.”

Here’s what it is and how to do it:

In this you basically scan each and every part of your body in your mind while saying Thank you for healing that part.

You start from your feet and move all the way to your head

Example:

  • Thank you for healing my feet
  • Thanks you for healing my ankles
  • Thanks you for healing my calfs
  • Thank you for healing my knees
  • Thank you for healing my thighs
  • Thank you for healing my buttocks
  • Thank you for healing my reproductive organs
  • Thank you for healing my lower back
  • Thank you for healing all my vital organs
  • Thank you for healing my upper back
  • Thank you for healing my chest
  • Thank you for healing my heart
  • Thank you for healing my neck
  • Thank you for healing my entire face
  • Than you for healing my head
  • Thank you for healing my brain
  • Thank you for healing my nerves
  • Thank you for healing my skin and muscles
  • Thank you for healing my entire body
  • Thank you for healing my soul
  • Thank you for healing my life.

By the time I finish the scan I am filled with gratitude and my mind is relaxed completely making me ready to face any challenges that may arise.

I really want you to give it a try Everytime you are anxious, Everytime you have a panic attack, Everytime you are angry or in general when you are free and want to relax further.

I bet within 5 minutes you will feel a great deal of difference. And the icing on the cake it doesn’t cost a penny. Please try it and do share your experience in the comments below.

I hope you liked this and if you did I request you to share this with you friends and family or who you feel can benefit from it.

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Have a fabulous day 🎉

Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Love and Relationship, Work and Life Fultilment

Want to know what happened to the guy or girl you bullied in school? Then Read Along.

If you have come to this article chances are you bullied someone in you school or early life. It must have been a thrill to bully or harass someone for their shortcomings, for how they look, for the clothes they wear, for their sexual orientation or the colour of their skin. Perhaps you might have done it just to look cool in your group. After all who doesn’t want to be the cool guy or girl.

It may have given you pleasure it may have made you feel strong, powerful, invincible. But did you stop and think what could your bullying be doing to the guy or girl whose getting bullied? Didyou think about the psychological effects it has on them?

If you had paid attention you would have understood that your bullying could have devastating effect on someone. This becomes bigger concern when parents and teacher don’t help them when they try to confide in.

Following are he effects that bullying has on them:

  • They end up feeling not good enough and begin to deal with low self esteem.
  • They begin to get anxiety issues and depression.
  • They begin to isolate themselves.
  • Their mind goes into a constant recall mode and affect their sleep pattern.
  • They involve in unhealthy eating habits or even substance abuse
  • A few of them being to harm themselves
  • A few of them don’t even make it to the adulthood as they end up committing suicide.

It doesn’t end there for those who make it to the adulthood

  • They continue to be extremely hard n them selves.
  • They face problems committing to a relationship.
  • They cannot express their feelings which in turn becomes pent up anger and resentment
  • They face difficulty growing at work as they don’t feel they deserve it making them feel like an absolute failure.

So you see, the short term pleasure you had has doomed them for ever. Please understand not everyone is gifted. Very few of them are able to fight back and become confident and successful.
Remember everyone has a story which you may not know of. You may not know if the guy or girls family may be going through a rough patch. Their color, race, ethnicity and sexual orientation is not in their hands.

So before you bully someone pause and try to know his or her story. You’ll regret to even have thought about bullying him or her. Also if you bullied someone, please try and contact them and apologise. It will have a huge positive impact on them.

An advice for parents and teachers: Please talk to your children regularly and check if they are being bullied. Ensure you support them and help them fix the situation.

Let’s stop bullying together.