Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Letting Go, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

Why is it necessary for you to let yourself loose sometimes?

So I was at a club yesterday with a very dear friend who I call Angry Bird . We met to talk over something’s we had been discussing for longtime. My friend has an awesome outgoing personality who genuinely believes living in the moment and enjoying it to the fullest. When he gets on the dance floor his energy is at it’s peak.

I, on the other hand, am a very shy and conscious person. I am very conscious about my self and how others see me. When I go to a club you’ll most of the time see me standing at the side of dance floor watching people dance. Though inside I feel bad standing at the side, I still won’t do anything about it.

This was not the case always. A few years prior I was the same happy go luck personality as my friend. I cared a damn about what others think. I believed in living in present and to the fullest. I wasn’t living a my life to impress others. That was until my anxiety kicked in and since then I have become a lot conscious about myself in public.

So me and my friend were at the club talking about random stuff and old times of how good they where. We were talking about how carefree our lives were and how much we enjoyed that time. It was so nice that I wrote a status on FB “Re-living my Past.” And truly I was because there was one more thing that was about to happen.

The DJ began to play dance music and everyone at the side tables got up and started dancing. My friend also routed to the floor since he loved dancing. I got up as well and was standing near to him watching everyone dance. He constantly asked me to join but there I was standing at the side as always.

It took me sometime, after which, I joined my friend consciously just making light movements. After sometime I don’t know what kicked in but then I was like, F**k it. Let’s dance . I told my self no body cares and even if they do it’s none of your business. I and my friend then danced like crazy. We danced for almost an hour with a lot of goofing around and it was awesome. It was truly liberating for me and I was really happy about it.

My friend was surprised since he always thought I did not know how to dance because he had never seen me dancing before. He told me how happy he was to see me dance like there is no tomorrow. The icing on the cake was when a group of stranger bros came and complemented us saying “You guys danced really well, What an energy?

After so long I let my self loose and it felt so awesome . I am really glad I met my friend yesterday because he seriously made me re-live my old self. I felt relieved and free and literally slept with a smile on my face all night long.

The message I want to put forward with this story time is that it’s ok for you to let loose at times. The kind of stressful lives we live in, it is extremely important that we let it out. So please occasionally liberate your self and do even the most cringey things without being bother about others. I’m sure you will love it after all that’s what life is all about. So live it to the fullest.

Cheers 🤟

Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

This one trick can help you Calm Down and Relax in 5 mins for absolutely free.

Let’s admit anxiety and panic attacks or for the sake of discussion worry and anger does not notify you beforehand that they are about to happen. A lot of times they are so strong that whatever we do it doesn’t settle. It’s like a tape that has been set to play on repeat in our brain. Your chest feels heavy. You are short of breath and a lot more.

I have faced this problem for a long time. And trust me it was a struggle to control it. There used to be times when I was on my way to office and while riding by bike multiple thoughts of everything wrong with my workplace would repeat on and on and by the time I reach office I would either be pissed off or anxious to the core.

This was the case until I found this one trick. I call it the “Thank you visualization scan.”

Here’s what it is and how to do it:

In this you basically scan each and every part of your body in your mind while saying Thank you for healing that part.

You start from your feet and move all the way to your head

Example:

  • Thank you for healing my feet
  • Thanks you for healing my ankles
  • Thanks you for healing my calfs
  • Thank you for healing my knees
  • Thank you for healing my thighs
  • Thank you for healing my buttocks
  • Thank you for healing my reproductive organs
  • Thank you for healing my lower back
  • Thank you for healing all my vital organs
  • Thank you for healing my upper back
  • Thank you for healing my chest
  • Thank you for healing my heart
  • Thank you for healing my neck
  • Thank you for healing my entire face
  • Than you for healing my head
  • Thank you for healing my brain
  • Thank you for healing my nerves
  • Thank you for healing my skin and muscles
  • Thank you for healing my entire body
  • Thank you for healing my soul
  • Thank you for healing my life.

By the time I finish the scan I am filled with gratitude and my mind is relaxed completely making me ready to face any challenges that may arise.

I really want you to give it a try Everytime you are anxious, Everytime you have a panic attack, Everytime you are angry or in general when you are free and want to relax further.

I bet within 5 minutes you will feel a great deal of difference. And the icing on the cake it doesn’t cost a penny. Please try it and do share your experience in the comments below.

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Have a fabulous day 🎉

Posted in Belief, Happiness, Letting Go, Work and Life Fultilment

Want to know the science of Expectations and Happiness? READ ALONG

Expectations are pre concieved belief of something to happen a certain way. As a human we all tend to expect. We expect for our life to be a certain way. We expect certain people to behave as per our expectations. Some expectations are reasonable, but a lot of times the expectations are unrealistic.

We have always been told by our elders to expect less or have no expectations at all. Why is it so? Well! They are saying that out of their experience. Because often times what we expect does not really happen. Our lives does not always take the turn we expect it should. Nor do people always do what we expect them to. And when that happens we become upset and depressed. We start being resentful about the situation and people involved.

But is that going to help? Absolutely not. All it’s going to do is hurt you further. Then what can you do to better deal with such situations?

Here’s what you can do:

  • Always make it a point to not expect anything from people or events in your life. When you’ll have no expectations, you won’t feel bad any longer. A quote from Steve Hawkins below aptly describes this.

“My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.”

-Stephen Hawking

  • Now let’s imagine there are situation where you do expect something. Make it a point to express the expectations it take action. For example you expect to eat a cake today. So you either need to order it or make it yourself. If you are expecting someone to get cake for you, you need to let them know. Also make sure the other person is happy do do it for you. Unless you do either of the two the cake is not going to magically appear in front of you.

The same case is applicable in every expectations we have. The more we follow this principal in all walks of our life, the more peaceful, happy and content we will be.

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Posted in Anxiety and Depression, Happiness, Letting Go, Mindfullness, Work and Life Fultilment

DID YOU KNOW: Men feel emotional as well and it is absolutely ok for them to express their feelings.

For centuries we all have been taught that men are supposed to be like a Rock – emotion less and hard. We’ve been thought men are supposed to be strong and expressing emotions are a sign of weakness and often associated it with females.

Have you seen a man crying over an emotional movie scene? Well I’m sure most of us have not. Even in the worst of situations you’ll not see them show any emotion what so ever. The reason is because they have been fed with the above belief. So they hide their feelings and emotions.

A lot of research has proven that Men are way more emotional then women. The feeling are way stronger. But because they hide their feelings it stays in them.

We all know how unexpressed emotions can lead us to mental trauma, depression and other issues. It has also been associated with major health related concerns. This is why you see the rates of suicide in Men is way higher then women. Also the rate of men dying due to heart attack and other life threatening diseases like Cancer is quite high.

But you know what, those days are gone. Please note now it is absolutely ok for Men to feel emotional and express them. It’s not a sign of weakness rather a sigh of a strong personality who is self aware and is able to let out what bothers him.

The more you express your feelings the lighter you’ll feel, the lesser burden you’ll have to carry. You’ll be more happy and content.

Here’s how you can start:

If you are one of those who cannot open to any one, you can start with a journal. Set out a day, sit in a quite room, feel every emotion and write down everything that you feel on a regular basis.

Slowly try and open up to someone close to you who will listen to you without judgement. You can choose a close family member but preferably a close friend since your family may be more susceptible to absorbing your emotions and feel sad them selves.

When you do his regularly, You’ll soon see you’ll be more open to express yourself when needed without hesitation. This is something that will have a huge positive impact on both you physical and mental health.

Have a great day ahead. Don’t forget to express.