I went to an event sometime ago which was organized by a few millennials who found some success in their startup venture. In the event they shared their success stories and experiences. After that they had an open floor for networking.
The main reason I went to the event was to meet like minded people and make valuable connections. When I went in I was fine, but by the time the experience share part was over and the floor was open for networking, my lack of confidence got the best of me.
I stood there at the corner like an idiot while others were actually meeting everyone and even connecting with the speakers. I was waiting for someone to come and talk to me which did happen but not too much avail. I left from the event feeling like an absolute failure.
When I came home I was browsing YouTube and I came across a video about a man who faked himself into I believe Milan fashion week by pretending to be a big clothing brand which actually was a regular street brand which he didn’t own. I immediately thought why don’t I give it a try.
I registered myself for the next networking event. And there I was pretending to be an absolutely confident charmer going to everyone asking questions getting to know them. By the end of the event I managed to exchange contacts with about 10 people. That was a big a achievement for me.
Here are a few things I did that day:
- I practiced a fake smile
- I practiced confident postures
- I imagined myself as outgoing
- I imagined my self as a winner
- I imagined myself as desirable
- I dressed myself for success
- I pushed myself into action
Let me tell you it was not easy. It was really scary at the beginning as my mind was not ready to accept me as something I’m not. But when I began to combine all of the above together and practiced it, I was able to pull the act.
How does that work?
When you fake something as if it’s a part of you, it will make your mind start believing it and then the mind releases the feel good hormones which will in turn make you more confident.
When you fake, you make others believe that you have more to offer. This way they become keen on know more about you and there by it helps you make your way yo success.
A word of caution though, when you fake, be reasonable. When you try to fake something extremely out of the line, you actually making it clear to everyone that you are faking and it won’t help
Also when you fake something be sure to work towards fulfilling it as no one likes someone who cannot show the gold pair of shoes he says he has.
So if you dearly want something try and pretend you already have it
To be happy, smile and believe you are happy
To make more friends, appear friendly
To get the job promotion you want, project you have what it takes to succeed in the job.
Just give it a try, start simple and I’m sure you will see a ton of difference it would make in your life.