Let’s admit we all are guilty of comparison. We do it every day and we do it frequently. It is extremely difficult not to compare when you live in the world where you are surrounded by so many people who only want to show their best foot forward.
Has it happened to you? You logged in to social media and immediately images pop up of someone who has recently been on a vacation that you wanted to go. Or someone who is having a blast on weekend?
What did you do? How did you feel? Did you say something about it in your mind? I’m sure you did. I do it too. And then I feel bad, jealous or resentful.
When we compare ourselves to others we are looking at what we don’t have, or what we are not able to do. And that is one straight path to Misery Land, which my friend is totally opposite to the La La Land.
But then if it’s that bad how do we stop comparing ourselves to others? Here are 8 steps on how to stop comparing yourself to others:
- Focus on what you have: The first thing is we need to do is look at our life inventory and list everything that we have. A family to care, a steady job, a roof to live under etc.
- Look at someone who’s not been lucky: The next good way to feel content is look at someone who’s not been that lucky and has to struggle with family, for food, at job etc. When you look at then your problems seem petty.
- Practice Gratitude: Now that you have a list of everything that you have be thankful for it. You’ll notice when you start doing this you’ll find more and more things to be grateful for.
- Remember comparing is senseless: We all have a different life and we deal with different situations. We don’t know about others journey or struggles. So how can everything we have be same?
- Do not measure a fish for it’s ability to fly: If we judge ourselves for something that we are clearly not capable to do, we are setting ourselves up for failure. We can expect a fish to swim and not fly. So let’s focus on our abilities instead of incapabilities
- Remember social media is a lie: Often times we get triggered to compare when we are on social media randomly scrolling through the feed. But remember most of us only post the best of our moments often times with filters and editing. Go for social media detox and only use it purposefully. You’ll feel much better and lighter.
- Avoid conversations that could trigger: Other then social media stay away from conversations that could lead to comparison. Be it about your or someone’s life, salary or something else. It’s extremely difficult due to social etiquettes however try as much as possible.
- Remember your time will come: Today might not be the day that you have the things that you desire but there will be one day for sure. Just fucus on that and stay persistent. Slowly and steadily you’ll have everything that you want. You’ll do everything that you desire and you’ll be with everyone that you want to be with.