Do you feel animated or inauthentic sometimes?
Do you feel like you are running away from something?
Have you encountered a situation where where your mind wants to do something but your heart says the other?
Have you encountered yourself justifying the behavior of others or your self?
Chances are, you my friend, are lying to yourself without even knowing it.
Let me explain with a few examples:
I love iPhone I feel it brings in sense of class and elegance. It gives that rich luxury feeling that we all love. But it is expensive and I don’t feel like spending that hefty sum of money on it. So I tell my self and others I don’t like it and I don’t want it.
I have put on a lot of weight recently It’s been due to me not taking care of my self, eating crap outside and doing alternate work shifts. But when someone points it out to me I get defensive and give that person some Gyan about self love and acceptance stating that I love my self the way I am etc.
But the truth is, I do want an iPhone. I do feel like crap because of my weight and body issues and I am actually not doing anything about it .
The above are just two examples. We do this to our self everyday. Most of us do it because we don’t like facing reality. We are ok to live in a dillustional world because it feels comfortable and makes us feel good about our selves. It helps us to avoid doing anything that is uncomfortable and make it convenient.
That short moment of comfort can give us life time of troubles. Living in the dillustional world like this can not only make us less mentally and emotionally connected and unclear. We begin to feel the side effects in the form of fear, anxiety, panic attacks, emotional eating, anger, racentfulness and making us less approachable. We don’t feel like an honest person or our authentic self and in the end we begin to even avoid having a conversation about it.
Here’s what we can do to get ourselves off of this:
- We become more self aware.
- We love our self.
- We become in tune with our emotions and confront the exact fear.
- We be open to opinions from friends and family.
- We dig deep within our mind and find out the exact want?
- Take actions
So If you want an iPhone, identify what’s stopping you from buying it and take necessary action like saving some money etc.
If it’s your health, figure out what you need to do to get back to your healthy and fit self. Start with taking small steps and move stronger as you get closer to your goal.
Apply the same to all the lies that you tell yourself and others. It’s going to be difficult for sure but then does anything that is good for us come easy?
Every step you take will move you towards a better, more authentic, happy and approachable self.
So start with this simple question
“Are you lying to yourself self” If the answer is yes, do something about it.