When I was in school, I went through a very bad phase until I reached 7th grade.Most of my classmates were children of rich and famous in my hometown. My classmates would not eat lunch with me because I was not from their socio economic status. They would not be with me as my clothes didn’t look as polished as them. They would not sit besides me and often times they bullied me and made me feel pathetic about my self. Almost everyday I ate alone and the feeling was miserable.
That phase left a black mark in my head. It made me feel worthless and it stopped me from loving myself until recently. It was really hard for me, to accept appreciation from someone because my subconscious mind was not used to it. I’d straight up say you are joking right?
It also stopped me from accepting love and care from others. I’d always think I need to do things for others for them to be with me otherwise I don’t deserve them.
This also affected me adversely in my career. As I did not push hard for the promotion I should have got or asked for a better hike because I felt I didn’t deserve.
I’d look at myself in the mirror and hate my self for how I looked and trust me, I looked much! much!! much!! better then how I look now. Yet, I always managed to find flaws in my self and feel sad for that.
But as they say, everything has a saturation point. When you reach that point, you start believing in the art of not giving a f–k. I did too. After dealing with a lot of nonsense in my life time and again. I realized I was being the self sabotage that was not allowing me grow. So I decided I’d start practicing self love.
Practicing self love is extremely important. Because if we don’t love ourselves we cannot expect others to love us the way we want.
Here how I started practicing self love and you can too:
- First and foremost forgive yourself and circumstances.
- Look inside your self and embrace yourself for who you authentically are. And be that.
- Start a self care routine by sleeping 8 hrs everyday, working out regularly, eating good food, meditating, giving your self a good massage or spa treat, etc.
- Be mindful about your feelings and Journal them regularly. At times self love may not be easy. If you write down your feelings you may feel lighter and charged to continue
- Practice gratitude and be thankful for everything you have in life.
- Make a list of everything that you love about your self and go through it regularly.
- At the end of everyday review your achievements and wins for the day. This would give you a feeling if accomplishment.
You can include all of these or add others that you feel can be beneficial for you. But start slow and be patient.
You’ll slowly start seeing the benefits of practicing self love. You’ll be more happy and cheerful and more accepting towards love.
So don’t forget to go in front of the mirror and say it to your self. I love you. You are fabulous and perfect. You deserve love and everything special in this world.
Happy Self Love to you.