We all aim higher for our selves in life. We have big dreams, a lot of ambitions and expectations. But how many of us end up fulfilling them? Barely a few of us. Why? One major reason could be our Excuses. Whenever things do not go our way or as we expected. When we fail to do something when we want to neglect to take certain responsibility, we end up making Excuses.
Excuses are great. They make us feel better about ourselves. They make it easier for us to digest our failed attempts and expectations by rationalizing the circumstances in our mind and in front of others. But in reality, all these excuses do is limit our abilities and we get stuck living in mediocrity. These excuses keep us stuck from taking actions that are necessary for succeeding.
Regularly practicing excuses can have a grave effect on our mental health by limiting the beliefs of our ability. We build imaginary walls in front of us and we do not look what’s on the other side. We avoid change and taking responsibilities. These keeps us locked in within our comfort zone. Our outlook towards life turns negative and in the and in the end all we are left with are regrets.
How do we get rid of this habit of frequently making excuses?
To eliminate excuses from our lives we must understand what these Excuses in reality are? Did we ever try to think them through? They are actually various fears we have like Fear of Failure, Fear of Embarrassment, Fear of taking responsibility, Fear of change, Fear of making mistakes, Lack of resources and Lack of confidence. These fears generally come due to lack of understanding, experience, support, and resources.
We make excuses because we have that option. But what if there isn’t any option other than dealing with our fears and taking necessary action? We need to be mindful about the excuses we make, understand the underlying fear and the feeling behind it. We need to deal with them in order to curb the habit. Initially, it may suck up your mental peace and calm. But it is necessary. When we make it a habit to deal with our fears and avoid making excuses, we become more confident and our abilities expand. We learn to accept change for good and take responsibilities. We begin to believe in endless possibilities and feel higher of our abilities. We thoughtfully make better judgments and have lesser regrets as a result.
I am listing down below few common excuses, the underlying fear, and the actions we should take:
|Sr #||Common Excuses||Underlying Fear||
|1||I have tried it before, it doesn’t work||Lack of confidence in ability
Giving up instantly
|Seek for help or try to research for an alternative solution to the situation|
|2||I don’t have enough knowledge, experience or resources||Lack of knowledge and experience where to start and what resources are needed
Fear of not being ready
|Set your goals first and Resources would populate on their own when you build the action plan|
|3||Economy is bad/ The Job Market is bad||Negative perception of external factors||Do not believe everything that you hear on social media
Explore for options and alternatives
|4||I’m don’t have time.||Inability to manage time||Identify important priority tasks and do them first.
Eliminate the aspects and activities that are unnecessary.
|5||I can’t-do this||Fear of failure||Identify what you lack which could lead to failure and work on it
|6||I’ll get to it later||Fear of taking responsibility||Accept Responsibilities as they come without delaying them|
|7||It’s too hard for me||Lack of confidence and fear of getting out of comfort zone.||Do difficult tasks first and do them regularly.
Trust your ability
|8||I don’t know the right people||Lack contacts and connection||Find ways to network with people who can be resourceful to you. Attend networking events|
These just a few excuses to name. There are a lot more excuses. All we need to do is understand the fear or feeling behind it and take necessary actions and remembering that making excuses is not an option.
Don’t look for excuses to lose. Look for excuses to win – Chi Chi Rodriguez